V današnji družbi so razmerja na daljavo vse bolj pogosta.
Ko tehnologija napreduje, se možnosti za komunikacijo na dolge razdalje širijo. Pravzaprav se velik odstotek odnosov začne na spletu – prek družbenih medijev, spletnih platform za zmenke ali celo spletne predstavitve prek prijateljev .
V vse bolj mobilni družbi se mnogi ljudje zaradi priložnosti za delo oddaljijo od družine in prijateljev. Seveda pa obstajajo situacije, kot je vojaška razporeditev ali odsotnost zaradi skrbi za oddaljeno družino, ki lahko zahtevajo dolgo odsotnost med pari.
Dobra novica je, da raziskave kažejo, da so odnosi na daljavo lahko zdravi, če sta obe vpleteni strani odprti in pripravljeni vložiti trud, da bi stvari delovale .
Izjemnega pomena je, da oba partnerja ugotovita, kaj iščeta v odnosu in da se zavežeta, da bosta odprta in iskrena glede svojih občutkov.
Nekatere pogostejše težave, ki jih imajo pari v zvezah na daljavo, vključujejo: pomanjkanje fizične intimnosti, osamljenost, pomanjkanje podpore in občutek podcenjenosti.
Iskanje ustvarjalnih načinov, kako ostati blizu drug drugemu, lahko reši vsako od teh težav. V preteklosti, če bi imeli partnerja, ki bi živel daleč stran, bi bili kot edino sredstvo komunikacije omejeni na telefonske klice (ali se vračamo še dlje, pisma!).
Toda danes je lažje kot kdaj koli prej ostati v tesnem stiku s svojo ljubljeno osebo. V vsakem razmerju je lahko enostavno pasti v koloteko in vedno znova početi in govoriti iste stvari .
Čeprav je lepo imeti nekaj romantičnih tradicij – kateri par nima svoje “posebne pesmiâ€?? – prav tako je ključnega pomena, da so stvari zanimive in si vzamete čas za nekaj istih dejavnosti, kot bi jih počeli s svojim partnerjem, če bi stal tik ob vas.
Ko komunicirate čez kilometre, se spomnite, da se vaš partner želi počutiti cenjenega in videti, da se trudite zanj .
While you should feel free to be yourself – and your partner will love you whether you are in your sweatpants or dressed to the nines – dressing up as if you are going on an actual in-person date once in a while will go a long way toward making you both feel good about yourselves and your relationship.
It’s less about how you look and more about the fact that you are making an effort for your significant other.
The things that are meaningful to both of you are uniquely yours. While there are lots of ideas to be found around the internet, it is ultimately about what makes your relationship special and what the two of you enjoy doing together.
Finding a way to adapt some of your common interests into long-distance dates will remind you of what you love about your partner to begin with!
The following are a list of date night ideas for couples in long-distance relationships. Hopefully, they will inspire you to find the types of activities that make you feel happiest and closest to your partner.
I- ENGAGE YOUR COMMON INTERESTS
What do you like to do when you’re together? If you are in a relationship, you certainly have some interests and activities that you both enjoy doing. Consider what those are and work out how you can participate in them across the miles.
For example, if you are both cooking nerds, consider sharing recipes or watching the same cooking tutorial and making a meal that you can eat “together†via Skype, FaceTime, video or chat.
Here are other creative ideas that couples have used to bring them closer together across the miles:
Watch a sporting event together
If you have a favorite team or sport, watching a game together can be a great bonding experience. You can make a snack, settle in and talk via video while you enjoy the match.
This can be a little trickier when time zones don’t match up, but if you both agree to a no-spoilers policy, you can always DVR/record a game and watch it at a time that is convenient for both of you.
Catch a film together
Maybe you have a favorite movie genre. Great! When the latest film comes out at the theater you can both go see it within a few days of each other and discuss it. Or, catch a movie on your favorite streaming service and watch together to discuss afterwards.
Try out one of the new online platforms that will allow you to sync up your movie-watching experience, comment on the film, leave reviews and even play games together. A few of the more popular ones are Synaptop and Togethertube.
Play a game together
If you are gamers, this is a no-brainer. Just log in at the same time and you can be together in a virtual “world†which allows you to talk about and share your experiences.
If you’re more into analog games, there are certain games that you can play across the miles such as charades, pictionary, trivia games and more. Or you can both log into a website that allows online two player games like scrabble or chess.
Take your partner to a concert or local event
It’s hard to miss out on things that you enjoy. If your loved one is missing seeing his or her favorite band or being at that annual cultural festival that you both love, bring them along. Take a video or FaceTime and share some of the moments together.
Surf the web together
We all spend plenty of time surfing the web on our own. Why not do it together? You can each makes lists of enjoyable websites and either look at them while you chat or even use a screensharing app to show what you are each looking at and make it easier to discuss.
If you’re feeling lucky, try out a website like StumbleUpon, which will find you websites based on your interests or one of the many sites that simply directs you to a random website.You never know what you’ll find!
Have a Book Club date
Are you both bookworms? Or looking to learn something new together? Great! Reading the same book and making dates to discuss it along the way will give you lots of fodder for discussion.
You can learn a lot about another person by sharing your individual interpretations of the same material. You can also choose a non-fiction book that is related to your mutual interests or – better still – have each partner pick a book that relates to an individual interest that you’d love to share with your partner.
Schedule language date time
Learning a new language is time-consuming and it can be very difficult to do by yourself. Learning a new language together means that you have someone to practice conversing with.
You could choose a language based on partners’ cultural backgrounds, common interests or even learn things for an upcoming trip that you have planned.
Craft or make art together
Are you the creative types? Maybe you don’t consider yourself creative, but you’ve always wanted to stretch those muscles. or perhaps one of you has an artistic skill that he or she would like to share? Make a date to make something. You can even create art for fun, to send to a specific charity or even make special pieces to gift each other.
II- SHARE YOUR WORLD
Perhaps most importantly, it’s vital to share not just the big events and the fun stuff but the everyday parts of life, too.
When loved ones are separated, it’s easy to become disconnected and feel like they are not a part of each other’s everyday lives.
Using some of these long-distance date ideas to share your experiences can combat that disconnection and will also give you more things to talk about together.
Take your partner on a tour of your world
Have you moved recently? Has the neighborhood you’ve lived in changed? What’s new? Perhaps there is a new restaurant, new neighbors, a house. Maybe the backyard garden is doing really well this year. Maybe it’s absolutely pitiful!
In any case, you can share all this via a video chat. Show your loved one around and tell them what’s been going on. Ask about what’s happening with them.
Send handwritten letters
True, sending a letter doesn’t qualify as an actual “date†but getting together to read them can! There’s something very special about taking the time to write that seems to bring out people’s truest feelings.
You don’t have to share heartfelt poetry. Simple letters to share what is going on are always appreciated.
Take online quizzes or personality tests
You can make this as silly or as serious as you like. Whatever your interests, there is sure to be a quiz or game related to it.
Want to discover what your Hogwarts house is? What about whether you are an introvert or extrovert? And what does that even mean? You can both take the same quiz, compare your results and have a good laugh or a serious heart to heart.
Send a date box
Exchange boxes with activities, foods or items that your loved one enjoys. Get together to open them and talk about what’s inside. The possibilities for a date box night are endless.
Anything from sexy clothing items to wine, candles, games, food items or movies to watch. Some great, interactive choices include fill-in-blank books, trivia or other cards can round out the box.
Share some relaxation time together
Sometimes, as in real life, it’s nice to just sit quietly with someone. Maybe you both enjoy yoga and you’d like to do that while you chat quietly or listen to music together. Or just lay on the couch and play a favorite song. Being together doesn’t always have to be filled with non-stop chatter.
III- MAKE PLANS
Most psychologists agree that, while long-distance relationships can indeed be healthy and fulfilling, they should be a temporary situation – with the intention always being that the couple can be together at some point in the future.
Planning for this time, whether fantasy or real, can be a great way to feel closer and to keep things interesting.
Go on virtual trips
Do you have a dream destination? Maybe you can save up to make that happen. If so, planning your trip is a terrific way to connect.
Sharing books and websites, tips and ideas about things to do gives you lots to talk about and something to look forward to. Even if that dream trip isn’t in your immediate future, you can still enjoy talking about places you dream of going someday.
There are numerous websites that offer virtual reality tours of destinations all around the world. Between these and travel websites, you could keep yourself busy for years dreaming of all the wonderful places you’ll see together!
Talk about the future
Yes, you want to feel like a part of your partner’s everyday life but allow yourselves time to plan for and envision a future where you are together.
Even if that is a long way off, scheduling time to talk about it will help make the time until your next reunion go by faster.
If your partner is coming to visit you, make plans for what you’d like to do together. It doesn’t have to be elaborate or expensive either. Enjoying each others’ company is always the main goal of being together.
Plan your dream home
Are you going to be living together in the future? What’s more fun than thinking about what your dream home would be like?
Even if you aren’t going to be together soon, it can be super fun to dream about furnishings and home designs and spend time creating boards, pictures or home designs.
Window shopping is a great activity online or off. Try putting together a joint board on a site like Pinterest, which allows you to share photos, videos and information from across the internet and beyond.
IV- MAINTAINING PHYSICAL INTIMACY
Although it is sometimes difficult to discuss, a lack of physical intimacy is one of the hardest parts of being apart from a loved one.
This is something that couples should discuss as there are many different ways to handle this situation. Although some couples do opt for some amount of “openness†in a long-distance relationship, it is also entirely possible to maintain fidelity even when you are apart for long periods of time.
Just as in real life, it is vital that both parties are on the same page as far as any long-distance sexual activity is concerned. No one should ever feel coerced or trapped into submitting to sexual activity that makes him or her feel uncomfortable.
That said, if both parties are in agreement, there are many ways to stay in touch physically, even when you are apart.
Make dates for intimacy
As in any relationship, it’s up to you to determine what types of intimacy and long-distance sexual contact work for you but it’s vital that you allow time for whatever it is that you decide upon.
There are numerous options for expressing your sexual attraction. From sexting each other messages, mild to wild all the way to new interactive sex toys that work with video platforms.
Interested but feeling a little shy or uncertain about what to say? Honest communication is key but there are many resources that can help you along the way. Try a quick google search for †how to sext†or “long-distance sex†and you’ll discover there is a wealth of information out there.
Surf the web together
There’s plenty of racy material – a little something for everyone, if you will – to be found on the internet. Watching together is very satisfying for some couples.
Read a “special†book together
Reading erotic material to each other can be very fulfilling and open up discussions about wants and needs.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0uNF4WeDqXg
Although not always practical, perhaps the ultimate long-distance date is a surprise visit from you! Pulling off such a visit, however, requires a great deal of planning to avoid disappointment.
Making sure that your significant other will be in town and is up for a visit, and will be able to spend time with you can be logistically difficult.
Če želite to poskusiti narediti “ultimateâ€?? Če se datum zgodi, bi bilo pametno poiskati pomoč prijatelja ali družinskega člana, ki živi v bližini vašega partnerja in vam lahko pomaga pri načrtovanju in vam pomaga, da se vse zgodi.
Kot v resničnem življenju, ni treba vsake vaše interakcije pretvoriti v veliko produkcijo. Za preprosto uživanje v družbi drug drugega je nekaj povedati.
Toda načrtovanje skupnih zmenkov – in vsake toliko posebnih noči – bo pripomoglo k temu, da bodo stvari ostale zanimive in sveže ter zagotovilo, da se oba čutita cenjena.
Povsem mogoče je ohraniti zdrav in zabaven odnos čez kilometre. Vsi odnosi zahtevajo ustvarjalnost in trdo delo in romanca na daljavo ni nič drugačna.
