Odnosi na daljavo niso za vsakogar. Pogosto bi vas vaši prijatelji in družina zavili z očmi ali dvignili obrv in vas vprašali, ali resno razmišljate o tem.
Mnogi ne vidijo tega kot izvedljiv razlog za ohranitev razmerja in tudi statistika ne laže. To je 40-odstotna verjetnost, da se boste v naslednjih petih mesecih razšli .
Za sodelovanje v razmerju, kjer bosta oba na tisoče kilometrov narazen in morda celo v različnih časovnih pasovih, je potrebno veliko poguma in predanosti. Na dnu vsega, tako kot vsak drug odnos, se vse skupaj spušča v to, kako noro zaljubljena sta drug v drugega .
Ko vaše zaupanje in predanost drug drugemu presežeta čas in razdaljo, ni dvoma, da boste to prebrodili.
Ohranjanje življenjske iskre, da bi delovala, je skupni izziv večine odnosov. In še posebej, če ste na stotine kilometrov stran ali celo na pol sveta.
Brez fizičnega stika, kako vzdržujete ogenj ? Kot poje James Ingram, “how you make it lasts?â€??
Odlična novica v tej dobi in času je, da je s prihodom tehnologije bivanje v razmerju na daljavo udobnejše in boljše.
Ta tehnologija je pomanjšala svet, tako da je mogoče vzpostaviti stik med seboj s samo premikom prstov .
S pomočjo tehnologije upate, da boste uporabili ta vedenja, ki so ključnega pomena za ohranjanje in vzdrževanje odnosa na dolge razdalje:
- Izjava o ljubezni in predanosti drug drugemu .
- Bodite pregledni drug do drugega.
- Ustrezno obvladovanje konflikta.
- Interakcije, ki ustvarjajo pozitivne odzive in rezultate.
- Delitev odgovornosti in nalog.
- Postati svetovalec svojega partnerja.
- Pridobivanje podpore iz svojega družbenega kroga.
Izkazovanje ljubezni do svojega partnerja ni nujno zapleteno. Niti ni treba, da je dolgočasno.
Vrnitev k osnovam je še vedno ključna z dodatkom presenečenj in ustvarjalnosti tu in tam. Zagotovo bo vaša ljubezen cvetela skozi čas . Tukaj je 20 učinkovitih načinov za izkazovanje ljubezni v razmerju na daljavo:
1. Redni pogovori s svojo drugo drugo osebo
Dajte jim vedeti, da so prva in zadnja oseba v vaših mislih . Pošljite te sladke stvari takoj, ko se zbudite, da jim privabite nasmeh na dan.
Končajte ga z dobrimi toplimi nočmi, da jih pošljete v deželo sanj. Za odnose na dolge razdalje je vzdrževanje ali vzdrževanje odvisno od tega, kako učinkovito komunicirate drug z drugim. Ne dovolite, da bi tišina uničila odnos, v katerega ste vložili.
Tehnologija je prek mobilnih telefonov in prenosnikov omogočila medsebojno komunikacijo. Naj bo to delovalo v vašo korist in naj vaš partner začuti ljubezen z vseh kilometrov. Povejte jim, kako zelo pogrešate in skrbite zanje.
Ena stvar, ki jo morate upoštevati, je, da ne pretiravate. Prepričajte se, da ustvarite ravnovesje med temi rednimi pogovori in jim še vedno dajete njihov “meâ€?? čas.
Skupaj se lahko dogovorite za določeno število krat ali ur, če bi govorili v dnevu ali tednu. Tako nihče ne ostane v temi in ob koncu dneva ali tedna se je treba veseliti .
2. Pojdite na video zmenke
Kar je bilo nekoč nemogoče, je zdaj izvedljivo s tablicami, prenosniki in celo mobilnimi telefoni.
Ni vam treba več obžalovati sebe, da v restavracijah jeste povsem sami. Vaš zmenek je oddaljen le Skype ali Facetime .
If your partner has an impeccable palette for gourmet food, you can send him a gourmet food basket. As they say, “the best way to a man’s heart is through their stomach.†So, even if you can’t cook for them, send them this basket to make them feel your presence.
No need to book a reservation in those expensive fine-dining restaurants. If your significant other can whip up a great meal with the ingredients in the basket, then a candlelit dinner right in the comfort of your own home via FaceTime is now viable.
Another idea is to go on virtual movie date with your significant other. Choose a movie that you both like and watch them at the same time, with matching popcorn and drinks for that ultimate movie experience.
It might not be as nice as being able to snuggle together in the movie theatre but doing this together can make up for those long lonely nights.
Studies show that couples with a lesser face to face contact experience are more likely to get jealous than those who contact each other face to face regularly. Having this experience cultivates trust and commitment between both parties.
3. Send your significant other a personal care package
Personal care packages are a fantastic way to show that you are always looking after them. Send them something their favorite such as chocolate or even have their favorite pizza delivered right into their doorsteps.
As weird as it may sound but a boyfriend would love massager as a gift from his girlfriend who is thousands of miles away. In the absence of their partner, this massager can give a temporary relief to ease the fatigue or melt the stress away.
4. Give them “open when you feel?†letters
You can give this even before you part ways. Or, if time wasn’t in your favor, send them via post.
Such act can make a difference in making them feel that you always have their back no matter what happens. Sweet messages to get them through tough times such as a big presentation or final interview, the letter can boost their confidence as if you are cheering them from the sidestep.
Or, if they are feeling down after a long day at school or office, the letter is like a virtual hug giving them the strength to move on.
5. Pay them a surprise visit
Nothing could be more romantic than physical touch and seeing your significant other face to face in their new place.
Just make sure that they do not have any other plans on that day so you can have each other all by yourself. Spice up your love life with your unexpected presence that will surely send fireworks on the roof.
Or, you can send them a round trip ticket to where you are currently located. Instead of you surprising them, they can fly over to meet you instead over the weekend or during a holiday.
6. Tag them on cute memes or meaningful messages
Make them giggle or laugh with those funny memes online. Post them on your social media, and be sure to tag them to make them smile as they go by their day.
7. Never forget to say I love you
The simplest but often the most overlooked gesture of them all, say “I love you†everyday.
Cupid will thank you for making their job easier. Saying I love you is the cherry on top of ice cream and can bring chills to the bone every single time.
8. Go old school, send letters via snail mail
Nothing can beat sweet messages personally handwritten by your loved one. The effort of writing it down and going to the post beats the advancement of technology.
Letters are for keeps, the sight, and even the smell of some stationeries will send butterflies to your stomach every single time. However, snail mail can sometimes fail us due to delays in delivery or even misrouted mail.
Science has found a way for you. Now, you can digitize your handwriting using a smartpen and graphic tablet. The magic of the handwritten letters are still there with the speed of email.
Simply amazing, right? Without a doubt, his old school favorite has made its way to modern technology.
9. Hide small cute notes in their stuff
Cheesy as it may sound, but these little notes can create a significant impact on your relationship.
Finding notes in the unlikely places like their coat or notebooks, which you dutiful hid on one of your visits, can make hearts aflutter.
10. Avoid “sinful†traps
Being miles apart from each other often opens an opportunity where your trust, love, and faithfulness can be tested.
When your college friends or workmates invite to out of town trips or night outs with unfamiliar people from the opposite sex, be vigilant.
Learn to say NO on those circumstances where you might be trapped into a situation that will make your partner doubt your love and trust, or question your faithfulness. It is essential to have visibility of each other’s whereabouts.
That also includes knowing who they are with. Openness and honesty are crucial to sustaining your significant other’s trust and love for you.
11. If you stay in the same area with their family, especially their parents, drop by to say hi from time to time
This applies to couples who have already introduced their partners to their parents. But, if you try to think of it, being introduced to their family is already an act of love.
It shows that your partner is serious in the relationship that they let you in their family. In their absence, try to fill in that small gap your partner has left. Try to drop by their house every so often.
Your partner will surely appreciate it if, especially if they have tightly knitted family ties. Your simple gesture also shows your intention to accept his family into your life.
Not all couples might find this comfortable. This practice is appreciated depending on the culture of your partner and how tightly knit their family is.
12. For pet lovers, give them something to cuddle whenever you are not around
If both of you love dogs or cats, gifting the other partner with a pet is a creative way to show your love. In your absence, the cat can purr, or the dog can lick as you snuggle them closely.
You have the furry animal who will greet you once you get home and cheer you up when you are down. The cute pet can become your “baby,†preparing you when that time comes in the future.
But, if pets are not allowed in your partner’s place or are allergic to furry animals, you can send a talking stuffed animal instead.
This cute stuffed toy can be cuddled which speaks whenever you squeeze it. Record your own voice to lull your partner to sleep or bring comfort when they’re feeling lonely.
13. Use an app to share private videos and photos
Ustvarite zasebno mapo v družabnih medijih ali aplikacijah, kot sta Google Drive ali Dropbox, kjer lahko delite nekatere slike ali videoposnetke , ki so omejeni samo na vaše oči .
Kjer koli in kadar koli lahko vedno brskate po datoteki, da podoživite strast in ljubezen, ki ste ju delili, in štejte dneve, dokler lahko v aplikacijo dodate več slik.
14. Naj bodo njihova jutra še posebej sladka
Presenetite jih s posnetkom, da jih zjutraj prebudite. Na skrivaj spremenite njihov alarm in posnamete nekaj sladkega, kar jim bo zjutraj pričaralo nasmeh na obrazu , kar bo zagotovo poživilo.
15. Pokažite svojo umetniško plat
Napišite pesem, sestavite pesem ali narišite njihov portret . Če nimate ustvarjalnih žil, kupite barvo po številkah v obrtni trgovini in sledite navodilom. Na koncu je misel tista, ki šteje.
Slika je tisoč besed. Trud, ki ga vložite v to, je tisto, kar je pomembno in naredi darilo izjemno edinstveno, ki ga nobena Da Vincijeva umetnost ne more preseči. Ne iščete popolnosti, temveč ljubezen in strast, ki sta bili vrženi, da bi to omogočili.
Za tehnološke fante, ki želijo presenetiti svoja umetniška dekleta na stari modni način, so foto posnetki pravi način .
Natisnete lahko več slik in jih pripnete na vrvico s pravljičnimi LED lučkami. Zdaj lahko svojo sobo okrasi z očarljivim spominom na dneve, ki ste jih preživeli skupaj.
16. Ustvarite prilagojen koledar
Namesto da svoje slike preprosto pustite na spletu ali shranite v škatlo, jih uporabite, da jih spomnite na dobre trenutke, ki ste jih imeli nenehno.
Zberite svoje najboljše fotografije, ki prikazujejo vašo ljubezen drug do drugega, ki bi lahko ustrezale tudi določenemu letnemu času kot slike ozadja na koledarju. Imejte eno edinstveno sliko na mesec. Kot dodaten pridih označite določene datume, ki so posebni za oba, kot so rojstni dnevi itd.
To je navdihujoč način, da si ogledate koledar in drug drugega opomnite, da bo čas polepšal vaš odnos.
17. Načrtujte svoje naslednje srečanje
Kako zabavno je končno načrtovati dan, ko si lahko oba delita dragocene trenutke? Dlje ko ste čakali, da pride ta trenutek, bolj cenite njihovo prisotnost.
Vse, kar je vredno imeti, je vredno čakati. Skupaj načrtujte svojo sladko pot do kraja, ki ga oba cenite . Ni nujno, da je razkošno, dokler sta oba skupaj; vse šteje.
18. Ustvarite odštevanje
Odštevanje dni do dopusta je vedno razburljivo. Kaj več, če je ta dopust z ljubeznijo vašega življenja. Ustvarite lahko ročno odštevanje ali prenesete aplikacijo na obe napravi in čakate, da pride veliki dan .
19. Kupite ujemajoč se nakit ali obleko
Tehnologija lahko dela čudeže. Dandanes lahko celo kupite kose nakita, kot so zapestnice , ki vibrirajo ali zategnejo oprijem na zapestju, kot da bi vas nekdo držal za roko, da bi se »začutili«?? vaš partner.
Zaradi teh posebnih predmetov se lahko nasmehnete od ušesa do ušesa, ki ga nihče drug, razen vašega partnerja, ne bi mogel razumeti.
Kar je danes tako modno, je tisto, čemur pravijo koordinatna zapestnica, narejena posebej za pare na dolge razdalje. Na zapestnico lahko postavite poljubne koordinate, na primer kje ste se prvič srečali ali kje ste trenutno.
Pridobite ujemajočo se zapestnico, da jim osvežite spomin, da boste kmalu imeli na zapestnici samo eno koordinato.
20. Delajte stvari skupaj
Preproste stvari, kot je branje iste knjige, so lahko dražesne, a sladke. Ali pa lahko skupaj igrate spletne igre, kot so šah ali igre navidezne resničnosti. Obstajajo tudi spletni kvizi, kot je test združljivosti, ki ga lahko opravita oba. Če nekaj delite skupaj , premostite razdaljo, ki vas ločuje .
Uporabite tehnologijo v svojo korist, saj kdo ve, morda bodo kmalu lahko ustvarili 3D komunikacijo, ki je na voljo množicam. Ali pa vas morda nekega dne teleportira k vaši pomembni drugi, tako da razdalja ni nikoli problem.
Konec koncev, ne glede na razdaljo, če imate nekoga radi, boste zagotovo našli načine, kako izraziti, kako zelo ga imate radi, in se boriti, da bo uspelo .
Zveza na daljavo je ovira, ki jo morajo pari prestati. Ko jim uspe, lahko dosežejo vse.
Če nekoga ljubiš, te nobena razdalja ali čas ne moreta nikoli ločiti od tistega, ki ti je namenjen, ker je vse vredno za EDNO.
